There comes a time in any serious relationship when you’ll eventually have to meet the parents. A crucial situation like this can either make or break any relationship. It’s one thing for your beau to adore you, but for his family to love you is the icing on the cake.
I’ve only had the opportunity to meet one parent and let’s just say the interaction was abrupt and quick. I had somewhat of a heads up prior to meeting his mother, but on the other hand, she had no clue I existed. Honestly, I felt super uncomfortable with how it all went down.
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I was dating this guy and he casually mentioned his mother was on her way over as I was at his place. Needless to say, my face was stunned, to say the least. I’ve never been in such a situation before. How was I suppose to prepare for this?
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I’m a firm believer we only get one chance to make a first impression and this was not the introduction I envisioned of meeting her. This was a major disappointment. Who does that?
When she made it and saw me I could tell by the look on her face she was just as uncomfortable as I was. All I could do was stand there and awkwardly wave hello since there was no formal introduction or greeting. See I come from a culture where we embrace new people with a hug and kiss on the cheek. I’m fully aware not everyone does this and some may take this gesture as offensive. The last thing I wanted to do was offend someone mother.
My mistake here was to assume the guy I was dating knew the protocol for common courtesy of how to introduce someone to his mother.
For the record, I would never condone this.
There should have been a moment where he at least took the time to properly say my name and title. This would have made the situation a lot less awkward for his mother and I. Sidestepping was a red flag for me to understand clearly who I was messing with.
Let this be a lesson to you too.
If you’re meeting beau's mom or parents for the first time I find it super necessary to impress her. My situation sucked, but yours doesn't have to. Especially, if you’re going to her home this puts you in control.
Don’t show up empty-handed. Do some research and try to find out what her favorite things are. Bringing a bottle of wine, candles, flowers, or a card with a nice message complimenting how she raising her son makes you stand out! You don’t necessarily have to give all these gifts at once. Simply one of the listed items works fine. Afterall, you don’t want to come across thristy.
Taking her out to dinner also never goes out of style. Restaurants serve as an epic setting to engage in conversation to get to know anyone. Be sure to do a little research prior and find a place that will align with her taste buds. If you have a favorite restaurant you might want to introduce her to as an extension of you. This thought could work wonders with leaving a lasting impression.
Of course be yourself, bring your personality, and always specify entire!